This my friends, is a question for the ages. And the truth of the matter is… the answer is different for everyone.
I remember when I was just starting out in phonesex a couple years back and I was searching high and low for resources. I obviously wanted to be the best, make the most money and be well… legendary. I was only part time back then but it was a passion of mine to search out tips and tricks.
You want to know what I realized? I was a natural. I didn’t need to read books on how to be sexy – I AM sexy! I didn’t need to read blogs about coming across natural on the phone – I AM natural on the phone. Now, there are some tools of the trade I picked up along the way but even some of those I ignore. I don’t want to give anything too spectacular away so I won’t share but, just know that my focus is no longer the money or to be legendary… it is just to be the best. The best for my callers. What I have learned in the last couple years is that everything else comes along if you’re focused on your callers.
That’s why I work so hard to keep this blog and my other ones up with fresh content. Those of you subscribed to either the podcast or blogs now that I occasionally fall off the wagon but I try to update relatively often, lol.
I also *really* like giving so much away. Not only the blogs, but my free erotic audio club, my cock radio show, my talkshoe podcast, I’m also very willing to help through e-mail and on more than one occasion have done couples phonesex where I help people move forward in their real life relationships.
And why do I do this? Because all those things wrapped up together make me the best. I know my calls are GREAT, you should see my list of regulars – so I am not losing a thing by giving so much away. Let’s just put it this way – my phone is ringing enough 
So for those of you who are either new to phonesex or maybe want to try it with your significant other here are a couple little tricks to make it happen:
1 – No distractions. When I am on a call, I am curled up in bed, out on my deck or sitting on my couch. Unless it is a Cam Show call, I am not by the computer. This allows me to give my callers my complete and total attention.
2 – Be interested. I’ve said this a hundred times here on my blog and in my shows…. I love my callers. If and when a caller comes along that I don’t mesh with I am quick to find another Mistress for him. That’s the joy of working at LDW, there are so many of us to choose from. And since my phone is ringing off the hook – I would *MUCH* rather you find a perfect Mistress than try to trudge it out with me. This also goes for those of you trying phonesex with a real life partner. If you aren’t in the mood, save it for another night. Phonesex is saucy, it’s naughty and it’s fun. If you don’t feel like any of those things – hold off for another night.
3 – Be openminded. I never know what is going to happen when I pick up that phone. Even if once I hear the voice I recognize a longtime caller, I still ask how he wants to play. Never put each other in a box. Always be open to a new fantasy. I truly enjoy off the wall, unrealistic calls because well… where else are you going to experience that kind of fantasy? The phone is the perfect place to try out freaky things! I can’t tell you how many times when I was wrapping up a call I ask where the fantasy came from… and the reply is, “I don’t know.. it just came to me” To me, that’s more than phonesex, that’s true bonding. And I like bonding
4 – Be true. One of the things that sets myself and other Mistresses here at LDW/Enchantrix apart is that we are real. I do this job full time in addition to working toward my MBA. I really, truly have fuck buddies and real life puppets. I can easily draw on personal experience for my sissies or cuckolds. This helps my callers feel relaxed and it helps me guide a call. Whether you are brand new to kinky things or you are a long time fetishist, I can relate. I know what it is like and I can share acute insights to fantasies. And let’s face it – just read my blog a while and you will see that Ms Holly is a bit of an open book! If you are trying phonesex with your significant other you already know a bit about each other. Don’t be afraid to share a shocking story from your past. That might just spark a whole new way to play!
5 – Make it a priority. There are a lot of people that try to make a living with phonesex. They either fall into the wrong company or they don’t take it seriously. This is a job like any other. I put in 40+ hours a week. I dedicate my time and efforts to my callers just like a sales person does for their clients. And believe me, I am very handsomely rewarded. If you are trying to start doing phonesex with your partner, I believe you need to take it just as seriously. Communication is the most important and often hardest part of any sexual endeavor. Especially if it is with a true partner. Don’t rush in, get frustrated and leave it. Work at it, it will turn into a super hot, super nasty, revving avenue of lust for both of you.
Wow! Looks like I got a bit carried away with this post. This is super long and I could keep going, lol. If you found this post and are looking to do phonesex for a living or just between you and your partner. Please, please feel free to contact me at holly@enchantrixempire.com I guess I don’t have to say it again but,… it would be my *pleasure* to help you get some pleasure
Smiles,
Holly
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